Love! How often do we feel so loved by others? What kind of so pleasant feeling do we feel when we have the sense of being loved by others? Trust is good. It feels sweet to know that someone trusts us. How good does this make us feel in life? How important is others' trust for us to us? The feeling is good! At least, there is some sense of belongingness in that. There is some feeling of they-appreciate-me in that. But, how about hatred? How do we feel about it? How do we feel when we are hated? How do we feel when we are betrayed? How do we feel when we lose others' trust. So bad; so painful. If it would be possible, we would all wish to be loved, appreciated, and trusted. For hatred and mistrust, oh no! Not at all. We do not want it. We do not want it at all. But, which one is worth it: is it to be loved by all, or to be hated by all?
Someone may say, it is to be loved by all. But is that true? Is it really worth it to be loved by all? As for me, I think no. It is not worth it. It would be weird. It would not even be possible. No human being can be loved by all. If it happens so, then the love would not be real. If we are loved by all, what would that mean? It would mean that we are perfect. It would mean that everything about us is good. It would mean that all is right. But as human beings as we are, all cannot be perfect or good or right with us. We are humans; not angels. So by hook or crook, one or two faults would be found of us. And that would automatically win us hatred. Yes, hatred. Even sometimes, unnecessary hatred.
Okay, with that said, let us just assume that as for us, we were so unique human beings that, we had no faults. Nothing was wrong with us. In fact, we were perfect. Would we still be hated? Oh, humanity! Dear, that would even buy us the worst hatred. We are perfect; we have everything; we know everything; we are the richest; we are the most beautiful; the cleverest; the most handsome...these are that which would win us hatred even the more. Again, sometimes unnecessarily.
So, what is the bottom line? The bottom line is: whatever we do, not all will love us. And it is so true; and so natural. So, what should we do? Should we worry if people do not love us? Should we feel bad when our loved ones betray us? Should we harm ourselves just because someone said something against us? In one way or the other, we would realise that we are imperfect: and it will make people hate us. On the other hand, we may naturally be more beautiful or handsome, richer, better etc. than others: and this will still make them hate us even the more. When it happens so, should we beg for their love? I think no!
For all you know, sometimes we know we have done nothing wrong: just that we do not agree with them; just that we do not have some things in common with them; just that they do not know why we are taking some steps; just that maybe, God has blessed us in one way or the other, more than them. And so, if for these mere facts, they are going to hate or dislike or disagree with us, why should we worry about that?
We should just try as much as possible, not to hurt or do any harm to anyone in this life, so that in all things, we would be on the safer sides. Aside from that, we should never compromise our beliefs or convictions just to make them love us. No. That is not to say that we should be proud, or we should not accept our mistakes. We really should. But, when we are hated for a good cause, let us not worry so much. However, we should not be hated by all to the extreme. We should have lovers. We should have those who can trust us. We should have a family. We should have true friends.
For hatred, mistrust and betrayal, they are part of this life. Therefore, my wonderful audience, let us embrace them. This understanding is one of the surefire ways to happiness and contentment in this life. I salute you all with a warm smile. Enjoy your day...
ISAAC ESSOUN
